I’m gonna say something a lot of people don’t wanna hear. Too many women be wearing “I don’t roll like that” like it’s some badge of honor, when really it just be sounding like a lack of boundaries wrapped up in fake maturity. I had a conversation today with another woman about situationships, exes, and boundaries. I asked her how she was cool being involved with a man who still had his ex in the background and never really made him choose or shut that door. Her response was,

Nobody really warns you about this part. Leaving the toxic relationship isn’t actually the hardest thing. It’s what happens  after. You think once you’re out, you’ll feel relief. Peace. A fresh start. Instead you feel confused. Someone is kind to you and you get suspicious. Someone is consistent and you wait for it to change. Someone treats you well and your brain immediately starts scanning for what’s wrong. Because toxic relationships don’t just hurt your heart. They change

I spent tonight deleting memories. Not just contacts. Not just screenshots. Not just photos. Memories. Years of them. I sat there scrolling through pictures of a version of me that looked happy. Smiling in restaurants. Going out constantly because that was a way of coping. Laughing in selfies. Celebrating birthdays. Standing next to someone I treated like he was everything. And that’s the strange part. Because I remember the truth behind almost every one of those pictures. I